Gift giving can be a risky process, especially if you have a picky partner or a partner that doesn’t seem passionate. However, you can’t beat that triumphant feeling of when you really nail the gift and you give your partner just what they always wanted. Seeing their face light up makes it all worth it.
Jewellery can be a great choice of gift as it has multiple uses, it can be sentimental and it lasts a long time. However, if your partner isn’t all that interested in jewellery, it is not a very good option for a gift. So, how do you figure out whether or not jewellery is the right gift?
Do they Wear it?
If you’re thinking of giving your partner jewellery for an upcoming birthday or anniversary, this should be an easy enough question to answer. If you can never recall your partner ever wearing jewellery, chances are they’re not likely going to appreciate it as a gift, regardless of how much money you spend on it.
Another important feature to note is how elaborate the jewellery is – if they do wear jewellery. If it is simple and (as much as jewellery can be) functional, it may have sentimental value. Something as simple as a ratty piece of string wrapped twice around someone’s wrist may have some psychological significance, so don’t try to ‘replace’ any existing pieces of jewellery as this can lead to unnecessary conflict. Remember, you may not know the whole story, so don’t jump to conclusions if the jewellery is not what you would consider ‘high-quality’.
Do they Notice it on others?
As individuals, we are more likely to take notice of features we personally find attractive on other people. If you find people who wear glasses more attractive, you are more likely to notice a person’s eyes or the types of frames they have. The same theory applies with jewellery. If your partner is able to easily point out when they like a piece of jewellery on another person, it is likely that they are interested in their jewellery on a deeper level.
However don’t jump the gun. If your partner only mentions jewellery as a response to another statement or compliment (i.e. Person 1 “I like your shirt” Person 2 “Thanks, I like your necklace”) it may be that they are just trying to be polite. Getting someone a present, particularly jewellery which can be expensive, based on one statement is never a good idea.
Does it Coordinate with their Style of Dress?
Do they change earrings to match with their outfit? Do they make an effort to make sure their entire ensemble matches with the bracelet they are wearing? Paying attention to the compatibility of clothing and jewellery is a sign that they like their jewellery. If their clothes always seem to clash with their jewellery, they might not be as fussed.
If your partner likes to make sure that everything matches, getting professional advice on ‘what goes well with blue, green etc.’ is a good way of buying a present that your partner will appreciate and wear in everyday situations. It is much better to buy everyday jewellery for your partner than to splash out on something more expensive that they will only want to wear on special occasions.
A Changing Collection or a Token Piece
Not all people who wear jewellery wear it because they like it. They wear it as a symbol, or because it has specific value to a close friend or relative. They might wear it as part of their religion. It is a good idea to pay attention to whether or not you always see your partner with one defining piece of jewellery or several changing pieces. If it is the latter, they are more likely to appreciate jewellery as a present.
Paying attention is a key part of any good relationship. When looking at potential gift ideas, being a little more attentive in the days leading up to that anniversary or birthday could make all the difference between choosing a generic gift, or finding a more personal one. There are countless beautiful pieces of jewellery out there that are sure to delight men and women alike, but you need to be able to find that one piece that is perfect for your partner alone.
Mike James, an independent content writer working in the style sector – joining forces together with Nirvana Wholesale for the information in this post.